This can be a problem for so many and I'm glad to see it discussed. As an introvert, I had to train myself to battle so many instincts to cave and succumb under the weight of the cumulative attention.
On #7 in particular, I used to have a partner that loved thrift shopping but she hated to negotiate so she always made me do it. It ended up reflecting in her work conversations where she struggled with those silences. Maybe that's a good way to practice in a low-stakes environment, go negotiate a better deal at a yard sale. When they make an offer sit in the silence for a bit and see what happens.
Something I like for number 7, mainly for when someone is wrong/derailing the meeting: "that's an interesting point, let's discuss it further off-line together so we keep this meeting on track.
I really like number 7!! This is something I struggle with but I realize when someone says something can’t be done, a helpful immediate response should be “why not?” Instead of “oh okay”
Yes and I feel like it's one you never fully master. For me, it's always a work in progress thing. Right now I'm working on getting better at disagreeing in the moment. So hard.
Great piece, thank you!
Thanks cat
This can be a problem for so many and I'm glad to see it discussed. As an introvert, I had to train myself to battle so many instincts to cave and succumb under the weight of the cumulative attention.
On #7 in particular, I used to have a partner that loved thrift shopping but she hated to negotiate so she always made me do it. It ended up reflecting in her work conversations where she struggled with those silences. Maybe that's a good way to practice in a low-stakes environment, go negotiate a better deal at a yard sale. When they make an offer sit in the silence for a bit and see what happens.
Practising in low-stakes environments is so good. Great share, thanks.
Something I like for number 7, mainly for when someone is wrong/derailing the meeting: "that's an interesting point, let's discuss it further off-line together so we keep this meeting on track.
Thank you. Yeah, I love that.
This post timing is perfect! Last week had 1:1 and got the feedback, that I need to improve my impact skill when communicating.
Yeah communicating impact is a big one. Hope some of this helps
brilliant advice. thank you!
Thanks chassy appreciate you reading
I really like number 7!! This is something I struggle with but I realize when someone says something can’t be done, a helpful immediate response should be “why not?” Instead of “oh okay”
So true - love that idea of asking why it can't be done. My brain goes "they said something new, they must be smarter than me, they must be right".
This is a valuable skill to master! Love the practical tips and takeaways.
Yes and I feel like it's one you never fully master. For me, it's always a work in progress thing. Right now I'm working on getting better at disagreeing in the moment. So hard.
Phenomenal advice!
Caleb thank you so much for reading